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One Thousand Impossible Things
Okay...This looks bad...
21st-Mar-2011 01:28 am
She's making me pay the entire hospital bill which could be upwards of $500. Because I certainly have that kind of money when I work a minimum wage job and am graduating in less than 6 months.

Heres what happened. We were going to a movie after this festival that our school has every year that all of the different international clubs participate in.

We pick up our friend Jordan and head to the theater. It's pouring down rain and much of the walk from the parking structure to the theater is uncovered. I have a rain poncho on but it's still freezing and I want to get out of it. She stands in the doorway trying to block Jordan from trying to get in. I was standing right next to him so consequently she blocks me too. I take he by the arms and push her to the side a little so I can get in and she responds by reaching out and twisting my nipple really fucking hard. In pain, I lash out to smack her in the arm and accidentally hit her face when she moves back.

After crying and holding her nose for a minute or so she goes the bathroom and like sticks tissue up there. All while not talking to me when I follow her a few minutes later. It's barely bleeding but she thinks it might be broken so she goes home, leaving me and Jordan to take a cab home since we wanted to watch a movie.

During the movie, she texts me saying that she thinks it's broken, her ex is taking her to the ER and she'll send me the bill.

Through our conversation through text, she tells me how much it could be, that it would take a week to see if it was broken and that no, I can't just pay half because it was completely my fault that I accidentally hit her in the face even though we were all playing around.

I can seriously understand and accept the responsibility for paying for half. But really...all of it? She's completely and totally blameless and therefore shouldn't have to pay anything?

Other factors that influence my being pissed off: We've had arguments about roughhousing before. It's also common knowledge from everyone who knows me that I don't really know my own strength and it's hard to pull my punches when I'm not thinking about it. So what happens is, that usually, I respond to people saying things that I don't like by hitting them in the arm to varying degrees or strength. She's told me she doesn't like that so I stopped. And then she does things like smack my boobs or twist my nipples (which fucking hurts and I have no idea why she's so fixated on them) and then gets mad at me if I hurt her too much when I retaliate.

I'm like...why in the fuck would you roughhouse with me if you don't like what you get back? And yeah, I'm really sorry about hurting her but...to say that I have to take all the responsibility? That just seems ridiculously excessive to me.

In the end I just stopped arguing. I'm hoping that when she has some time to think about it and when she's not in as much pain she'll reconsider. She's one of my best friends and I don't want to ruin our friendship over this but something tells me this won't end pretty.

Also, my nipple still hurts and The Adjustment Bureau was spectacular.
21st-Mar-2011 04:01 am (UTC)
that's fucking stupid. she needs to take some responsibility for it! It's not just your fault! And how will it take a week to know if it's broken?! If she's making you pay the entire things, she better have gotten an Xray and a definitive answer for that shit. *hugs*
21st-Mar-2011 05:56 am (UTC)
honestly? i'd probably refuse to pay more than half of it (if even that - a broken nose isn't some major thing...). she basically agreed to the possibility getting hurt by continuing to roughhouse and get into it with you.

hopefully she'll calm down though and be more reasonable when time's passed.
21st-Mar-2011 11:33 am (UTC)
It sounds like it was more or less completely her fault. If she hadn't been blocking you guys from getting inside, you wouldn't have been rough housing in the first place. Totally an accident and totally not your fault.
21st-Mar-2011 12:37 pm (UTC)

I really don't think you should foot the bill if she assaulted you first. And who the hell grabs someone's nipple anyway? What a freak.
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